So, you got rejected by a girl. Does it hurt? Your heart aches and your eyes want to cry? You think that it is all over, and you need to commit something… bad? Let me tell you how to deal with rejection from a girl in this article.
Stop This Thought Process (Applicable Not To All Types Of Rejections)
Theoretically, from socio-biological standpoint, being rejected by a girl should not faze you AT ALL. You are, after all, a man – the solid foundation of this whole society. The main driving force of the society’s survival (men, after all, were warriors, politicians, inventors). What if in the cavemen’s era, you got rejected by… a girl… and that would make you so despondent that you couldn’t even lift your finger to hunt for the next meal? Well, I will tell you what would happen – your tribe and relatives would starve.
It should be said that there are different types and degrees of the severity of rejection. Are we talking about a random girl in a bar who you don’t even know? Well, from my experience, the more you approach and meet girls in bars, the less scary it becomes to approach them… and the more indifferent you become to them being rude to you.
However, it is also true that you can never become 100% adamant and emotionless. You just become better at it with experience. (Do I want to continue this thread of thought? Not sure. But you get my point.)
So How To Deal With Rejection From A Girl?
Let’s assume that you are talking about being rejected by a girl not in a bar, but… say, in a situation where that girl was in your social circle, and you knew each other well enough and long enough, and you tried to ask her out… and she just said “no”. In most cases, girls will try to be nice with you, too.
(For some reason, girls always try to be nice with the guys who “are nice”. Which does not mean that they look at these men as potential lovers.)
I tend to think that the severity of rejection is directly proportional to the amount of emotional investment that has been put into the relationship.
That is also probably why you can become adamant to rejection from girls in bars, etc.. as long as you do NOT put too much value on those girls. (Remember – in those cases, you don’t even KNOW the girls.)
This is also probably why people who are trying to mask their real personality with pick-up lines and techniques… they, too, can be “adamant” to rejection from random girls. However, once they expose themselves, their true self that is, the problem of inner insecurity comes back. Some even start shaking and crying from what I’ve heard. They placed the whole emotional responsibility for rejection for lines and “that other on-stage persona, or mask”, and didn’t put THEMSELVES and THEIR personality on the line.
If you read the stories of other men who are good with women, though, you will notice that it becomes a little bit harder when you fall in love with a girl. The emotional investment is larger in these cases, and the pain can haunt you for MONTHS… after you break up (or if she rejects you, if you were never in a relationship to begin with – in this case, the main culprit is probably you; never should have put so much value on that girl, eh?).
Exact Thins For How To Deal With Rejection From A Girl
The steps I got from other men are pretty simple actually. So we’ve identified that the situations can be a little bit different, depending on the circumstances of that rejection.
Basically, and the following tips may sound a little bit too harsh to some of you, guys… but here are the tips:
If you got rejected by a girl in cold approach, which means in a bar or a club, then forget about her. Congratulate yourself that you did approach her to begin with 
. In a sense, you can start approaching other hotties that are around you. But I’ve found that “reframing” that rejection so that you could get GOOD emotions, instead of BAD, is what tends to work most of the time.
If you got rejected by a girl in social circle… well, stay unfazed. As far as I know, she never was your girlfriend to begin with, right? Just stay yourself and continue your life. Be friendly/continue mildly being flirty with her. Hit on other girls. As a man, you can’t let ONE RANDOM girl ruin your whole confidence, after all.
As for advice for “rejection” in an already established relationship, I’m don’t feel qualified to give you THAT here, though, as this area is a bit tricky… and I don’t think that there are many who can give you legit advice in this area. However, the tips I got from others on how to deal with rejection in love were: first and foremost, you should stop contacting that girl altogether.
Sleeping with 10 other girls will not cure that pain. Neither will it help if you are constantly around that girl. I know a guy who is travelling around the world, “switching girlfriends” on the go, and he said exactly that to me. Listen to him – at least he knows how it feels like to break up with a girl that you really care about.