Well, you have two options when trying to find the answer to how to kiss a girl – you can either ask a woman, or you can ask a guy who is… not a woman. 
I actually do not like this topic, because again… it can get a little bit controversial when talking about this, but I’ll try not to polarize things too much.
Before Going For a Kiss
I assume that you already have a woman in mind who you like and want to kiss for the first time (maybe, on your first date?), or who you want to improve your kissing techniques with.
Even if you don’t have anyone in mind, and you are just interested in how to kiss a girl in a bar, as in when to make a move, etc., this article will still be helpful to you. Don’t be nervous is my advice when you are trying to kiss a stranger. Well, we will get back to it later.
How To Kiss A Girl From Cold Approach
If you are trying to kiss a girl from a cold approach, as in when you just saw her in a bar or in a nightclub, then I will just tell you that the best mindset I can give you is this – don’t make this a big deal even if you “screw up”.
Well, in fact, it is very hard to screw it up – the girl either likes you or she doesn’t, and if she does like you, then you will get your kiss eventually.
The problem with “making this a big deal” is that you will become even more of a wussy, and wait for a “perfect moment”, or for “when she gives you a VERBAL permission (yeah, of course), which you will most probably never get, unless she is a very straightforward type of woman.
Do You Need Any Signals To Go For A kiss?
Well, this is a harsh question. The thing is, there ARE probably signals that a girl gives out when she is ready to be kissed, like some special kind of eye contact, body language, pupil dilution or whatever, but I never paid attention to that.
Well, the funny thing is, even when there are NO SIGNALS ABSOLUTELY (as in, she is like just chatting to you), and you just go for a kiss – you can get it. And when you REALLY feel like she is ready to kiss you (she doesn’t break the eye contact or whatever), she may reject you. Probably because of some upbringing issues.
How To Kiss A Girl
This is probably for the times when you actually have a girlfriend who you can experiment with.
Let’s first say that most men and women don’t know how to kiss. While an average girl is on average more experienced in intimate things than an average man, mostly due to the fact that girls have it easier when it comes to finding a partner to fool around with, the majority of girls still don’t know how to kiss properly.
From what I’ve seen, it seems that there are different opinions on this, and the final result is such that different people like different things.
Some guys and girls will love it when there is a tongue down the throat, some will love face eating, and some will prefer some more romantic type of makeout.
Here are some tips that you can get from a girl regarding how to kiss a girl:
- Be prepared, whether it may be making sure that your breath is fresh or whatnot
- Test the waters
- Wait for the right moment
- Get permission for the kiss
- Approach for the kiss
- Do not kiss just for the sake of getting over this prelude
- Pay attention to your partner’s cues
- Breathe
- Use your hands
Well, these are good tips. The best tip, however, is to pay attention to what that girl likes. However, it is also a good idea to lead the girl (you are the man in the interraction, after all, right?).
That means, for example, if you want to just throw her on your knees and kiss her like a Zorro, then go for it. It will be fine as long as she likes you.
And if she doesn’t like you – just stay adamant, like nothing happened. Be silly – like it is a game between a young boy and a young girl who are both just checking each other out .
Lastly, (long) What If She Rejects Your Kiss Attempt?
It doesn’t matter if she rejects you or not – the funniest thing is that by going for a kiss you usually build attraction. Yes – even when she rejects you, she will probably get more attracted to you.
But AGAIN, there is a LIMIT for this. If you are a complete newbie, then just go gorilla on all the girls you see, and let your natural intuition take care of this. Just do it enough to get over that “kissing anxiety”, as in the weird question inside your head that goes like this:”Should I kiss her or not?”
The moment you hear yourself asking this… it is probably the time to kiss. But you can still get rejected even the intuition tells you that it is THE MOMENT. Lol, can’t believe I’m going so analytical about this – please tell me later in comments where I got wrong or whatever. It is very hard to explain something that is so natural (although there are definitely dating coaches who can do it better than me).
The thing I can tell you for sure is that… when you GO FOR A KISS… and you GET REJECTED, quote on quote… she WILL BECOME more attracted. Like, how you feel like the interaction is dying out (too much talking – she gets bored), and you go for a kiss… usually you can save the interaction. Really . Happened to me so many times.
And when you do NOT escalate and let it stay in “friend-to-friend” type of vibe… you usually lose the girl. Well, unless you have some other kind of thing going on in your interaction, like having a very interesting conversation (and she just happens to be the type who likes “stimulating conversations”).