You are not very good with women, and that’s fine… because you CAN LEARN how to get girls and become successful with females in general.
Many guys have LEARN the behavioral patterns and mindsets that made them successful with girls, which means many guys have TRANSFORMED themselves from total “chodes” (wussies, unsuccessful with women) to absolute STUDS – they weren’t necessarily born that way.
This article will deal with the “inner aspect” of becoming good with women – if you have at least SOME EXPERIENCE with how the interaction between human beings work, and you probably do unless you have been a recluse for your whole life… you will know that what you say, as in the exact words, is not always enough…and that there is this thing called “subcommunication”, which cannot be faked very easily.
For example, “confidence” and “being relaxed and comfortable with yourself” (which means you are not trying to be someone else… you are not faking it to the girls, and you are presenting to the girl your “best attractive self”) are two things you cannot easily fake.
If you want to learn how to talk to women, and which pick up lines to use in order to help you on your journey of becoming an attractive guy – refer to the respective articles.
You Can Learn It – It Is In Our Genetics To Be Attractive To Females
There is nothing in this life you cannot learn, especially when it comes to such BASIC skills as the ones for reproduction and attracting the opposite sex. That means ANYONE who is A MAN (male)… can learn how to get girls because we were born to be compatible with women. The reason why you are currently not good with women is mainly because you have learnt… bad behavorial patterns, probably from your friends, from mass media, or from your parents.
What seperates the winners from the losers in this life are not the genetics, the good looks, how “lucky” you were when the GOD decided whether you will be successful with women or not… none of that matters. What matters is if you have the right mindset, the right understanding of how girls operate, and how to attract them.
How To Get Girls – What Parents Told You Is Not Good Advice
If you want to get girls, you first need to forget whatever that you’ve learnt so far from your parents. You also need to forget whatever that you’ve learnt from mass media, particularly from the mainstream movies.
Those are the ones where the nice guys “always seem to get lucky”, and the main heroines become attracted to these guys “from pity”… Quite a cliche formula, if you think about it, that has been used by Hollywood for many years. (Just think of the main heroes of Spiderman and Transformers, for example.)
What you do need to understand is that girls don’t like “nice guys”. They want guys who are assertive, confident, dominant, etc.. The guys who know what they want and go for it.
Change Your Behavior – And You Will Change Your Results
If you are a nice guy (friend zone? not knowing how to ask a girl out? constantly being rejected by girls? Sounds familiar, right?) then you need to stop being “nice”.
That does not mean that you should become a total idiot, who by the way, usually find themselves in almost always abusive relationships. If you want hot and high quality girls, you need to learn the behaviors and mindsets that are attractive to girls in general. That means, you should reinvent yourself and your understanding of how women work.
Here are some things that may be holding you back from being an attractive man:
- You constantly try to please girls
- You lack confidence
- You don’t believe in yourself which translates into lack of belief in your actions, in your words, even in the way you walk.
- You are afraid to get sexual with girls (touching, hugging, leading physically, etc.)
- You are afraid of just talking to people!
These do not make a complete list, but they are one of the many indicators of bad behaviors… indicators that literally make women run away from you.
So What Do You Do In Order To Become Successful With Girls?
In order to get girls, you have two options – you either become a person who is good with women, which would mean that you would force yourself to become confident, social, fun and assertive, or you get pick up lines that will help you become that way (make you “appear that way”).
The choice is up to you, but I do recommend that you pick the first path – that you work on yourself and make YOURSELF a better person, a better man, rather than covering your true self with fake pick up lines, mechanical “routines”, etc.. Reinventing yourself into a better, more attractive man.
It will pay off in the long run – for sure.